Tuesday, April 13, 2010

ON LINE DATING continued

Let me start by saying it is very disappointing when you spend 30 to 45 minutes coming up something clever to match the limited data presented in a post, just to have it read and deleted. Some of them don't even bother to see my profile. The last profile of a pretty woman, somes herself up in two sentences. I tried to find fun in every word to come up with a full paragraph, just to have it flushed into bit heaven.
It is very disappointing to send a different pretty woman four messages without any responce what soever. She too gave 30 seconds of thought in her profile. I spent 2 hours writing the messages.

OK, I admit some quirks. I like tall thin woman. Thats it. Once I was in a different on line dating service, one I paid for. This one is free but many times bigger. I must have emailed thirty women. Not one of them responded. OH, I take it back one flat rejected me. She determined by what I wrote and send we have nothing in common. I thanked her for the rejection. Silly me.

OK I admit a failure. One woman contacted me. She was a very nice lady but not tall and thin. At the time, I was not going to just tell her, thanks but no thanks, so I made a date to meet her. It was a plesant evening. I went out with her a second time. The third time I met her friends. Her friends liked me and they were fun. But I was afraid that she was getting attached. At the time I really did not understand the thinking of woman. At times I think that was the demise of my marrage. My Daughter warned me, three times is serious. She was right. Well, after the third time, around the time my father died, she came to the funeral. She asked me if it was a problem. I said it wasn't. But it was. Deep down I really did not want any serious relationship and she was not the woman I wanted. I felt terrable about it. Even to this day. Remember the song from the Police, "The King Of Pain"! That is what I feel like. Or at least did and still do from time to time.

This time I wasn't going to drag out a relationship that way. If there is no chemistry then forget it. The woman I sent a message to probibily thinks the same of me. Of course I think they are looking for "Mr Goodbar". Does it mean that I am looking for "Ms Goodbar"?

Can I be so bold to say the woman in the on line dating are damaged. I AM ALSO DAMAGED. Forgive me because I am damaged. I'll forgive them because they are damaged.

1 comment:

  1. Wow...very insightful. Sorry for your frustration. I am thinking that being legally separated isn't enough for most single woman. It sends up red flags. Never mind that it's been two years; without the BIG D...you're still married.

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